Behavior Is A Language

One of the greatest lessons I’ve learned

on this long, aching road of healing

is this: Behavior is a language.

Louder than words.

More honest than intention.

It doesn’t whisper. It roars.

It says everything we’re too afraid,

too unsure, or too strategic

to speak aloud or even admit to ourselves.

Behavior is more revealing

because it doesn’t ask for trust—it either earns it

or breaks it.

It took me time…to stop translating excuses,

to stop giving the benefit of the doubt

to what was clearly absence.

Because inconsistency is communication.

So is avoidance. So is silence. So is lack of effort, so is unhealthy communication, So is showing up halfway, So is disrespect. So is unwillingness…

I no longer decode mixed signals.

I no longer translate confusion into hope.

Now I listen with my eyes too,

I trust the pauses.

I read the rhythm.

I recognize the red flags for what they are,

not warnings to fix,but signs to walk away.

Because the truth?

It’s always there. Not just in what they say, but in how they move.

Intentions without action?

They’re just noise— with a pretty face.

So remember this:

Behavior is a language.

And when you choose to heal,

you no longer need to translate. You see it for what it is.

You stop using “language barrier”

as a reason to tolerate what your soul knows isn’t love.